Recognising the pattern
We look at one concrete, recurring situation — in a relationship, at work, or in contact with yourself.
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NVC ConsultationNonviolent Communication as the ground for difficult conversations
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Marshall Rosenberg's method, teaches you to talk about what is difficult without judging yourself or the other side. At SACRUM it is both a standalone consultation and the ground on which our other work rests.
Led by Łukasz BielińskiTrener NVC · przewodnik psychodeliczny
Starting point
„The difference between «you always ignore me» and «I feel left out when you don't answer» is the difference between an argument and a conversation.”
What it actually is
NVC differs from ordinary conversation in one respect: it separates the observation of a fact from the judgement we automatically attach to it. Instead of «you're always late» (judgement) — «three times this week the meeting started later than we agreed» (observation).
The model rests on four steps: observation without judgement, naming the feeling the situation produces, recognising the need behind that feeling, and formulating a concrete request — not a demand.
At SACRUM, NVC plays a double role: as a standalone consultation for people who want to learn this way of communicating, and as the foundation for building a safe therapeutic relationship in our other processes — especially where difficult emotions arrive quickly and intensely, as in CAPT sessions or in integration work.
How it runs
From the first message to closing the process.
The four NVC steps
You learn to separate observation, feeling, need and request — first on examples, then in your own situations.
Practice under safe conditions
Difficult conversations rehearsed in the consulting room first, before they reach a real relationship.
Applying it in practice
A shared review of what is working and what still needs work in everyday situations.
Who it is for
Clear expectations before the first session.
People stuck in recurring conflicts
When the same arguments keep coming back, whoever you are talking to.
People preparing for other SACRUM processes
NVC as preparation for conversations about difficult emotions within CAPT, integration or team work.
People who work with people professionally
Therapists, educators, managers — anyone who runs difficult conversations day to day.
An important boundary
What this is not.
- NVC is not a manipulation technique or a way to «always get your own way» — it is a method built on mutuality, not on advantage.
- It does not replace couples therapy or psychotherapy when a conflict has deeper, individual roots.
- SACRUM is not a medical entity — an NVC consultation is educational and developmental in nature.
Next step
Led by Łukasz Bieliński
Before booking you can ask about the format, the scope and availability. We answer plainly — including when a different method would serve you better.